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Stop being a dirty slut around my man, hoe!

By Abby D.

Dear Abby:
I'm having some problems with my boyfriend. You may find this all a little bit strange. I kind of have an obsession with Harry Potter. I have all the books, seen all the movies etc. I am a Harry Potter fanatic! The problem is, I wanted to go to opening night of the newest one. I wanted to dress up like a witch, and I also wanted him to dress up and play along. Well, first he said he would, then changed his mind. Now he is refusing to go at all. So I will have to go opening night all by myself.

It pisses me off because I feel I have always supported everything that he likes; I have always went along with things that I even disagreed with because I knew it would make him happy. This is really something that I have thought of breaking up with him over. I know, I know - sounds drastic. But this just really pisses me off. Am I way out of line?

Yes. You are a little out of line.

The thing is, with relationships, it's give and take and sometimes you give more than you take. You cannot expect him to do the things for you that you do for him. It doesn't always work that way. I'm sure he thinks it's great that you go along with things just to make him happy. But if he's just not willing to do the same, then you have to wonder if you are only doing things for him hoping the same from him in return. I say this a lot, but you have these expectations for him that maybe are just a little too high. Why have him go somewhere that YOU KNOW he is not going to enjoy? If it is something YOU enjoy, take a friend that shares that same joy rather than making someone go that will not have a good time and be bored out of their mind.

Dear Abby:
I have two friends that are dating one another - I actually hooked them up. Well, recently they started having sex with each other, and now he possibly has an STD. His girlfriend told my girlfriend that she recently had an STD and was not through all the medications before they had sex and they were not using condoms, so I'm pretty sure he got what she had. I want to tell him about this, but it puts me in a bad position. My girlfriend says not to tell him, but I feel like it's my place to as his friend. But I know it will more than likely break them up, because she never told him before that she had anything.

I don't really know what to do. Should I tell him or not?

Eww.

Your friend should be a little more careful about where he dunks his wang. Tell him the truth. It's not like you caught her flirting with some other guy or she's hooked on crack or anything. She had a disease that now he may possibly have. When you get into a sexual relationship with someone, you should always, always, always be honest about those types of things. She should have finished her meds before they started having sex and not to mention used a condom. It was her responsibility to tell him the truth. She didn't. So now it's left on your shoulders. If he doesn't figure it out on his own, I would say you need to remind him that he didn't have this problem before he had sex with her, but he's having it now. And I have to say, you should be a little concerned that your girlfriend didn't want you tell him. I think I would want to know if I had something wrong with my vagina 'cause I slept with a dirty, dishonest skeez.

Dear Abby:
I feel like my best friend flirts with my boyfriend. Whenever she is around him, she wears shirts that show a lot of cleavage and bends over in front of him. You can see all the way down her shirt! She even acts different when he's around and says things that she normally would not say. My boyfriend thinks she is slutty and has assured me he is not interested in her, but it still bothers me that she does that. I don't know how to confront her about this. I think it will end in us being pissed at each other and no longer friends, but I think it's wrong what she does and I don't know how to tell her to stop!

Just say, "Stop being a dirty slut around my man, hoe!"

No, don't say that. Be sure you are not just being overly protective of your boyfriend's eyes. You know what you got; you know he wants you. Usually if you let someone know it bothers you, (and SHE ALREADY KNOWS IT BOTHERS YOU) it just gets worse. Girl, you can either let it bother you or you can just let it go, because your man has already told you he thinks she's slutty and he is not interested. Your friend wants to flaunt her boobies around probably because that's the only way she can get a guy's attention. You probably didn't have to do that with your boyfriend. I would feel sorry for her more than anything. Don't even let it bother you; it's not worth it. Be secure in knowing what you have with your man. Women are always going to do that; it's everywhere you go.

Originally Published: July 22, 2009

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